I just read a blog about ‘When you know you’ve found your MBFF’. It’s 6am and I’m sitting in the dark with my eyes half open so apologies in advance..I’m not entirely sure how this blog will go! However, it got me thinking – so much so that I can’t get back to sleep.
Firstly, it too me a few minutes to work out what an MBFF is, I’m obviously not quite there on the ‘Mummy lingo’. So, for those of you on my wavelength MBFF = Mummy Best Friend Forever.
I don’t have an MBFF..but it’s maybe time to find ‘the one’. That special person I can call my ‘Forever Mummy Friend’.
I’m quickly realising that now I’m Mum and not ‘Hottie Patottie 20-Something Party Gal’…cue bad photo…
(I will fit this dress again one day!)
So I think the ‘BFF’ criteria has changed…pretty significantly, when looking for a MBFF.
Right, let’s get to it. What to look for in a MBFF!?
1. Up for a laugh. (GSOH). Sometimes if I don’t laugh I’ll cry…I’m tired, irrational and hormonal – MAKE ME LAUGH PEOPLE!!
2. Honest. Tell me if I have puke on my shoulder, or if my jumper is inside out, or if I’m being ridiculous!! I’d rather know.
3. Empathetic. I now have real highs and real low (often dependant on no. of hours asleep). I just need to talk it out to someone willing to listen.
“I tried rocking to sleep but it didn’t work, and the book said not to do it, but I did it, and now I found out that I shouldn’t have been doing it which makes me a bad mum, but I need to sleep and if I don’t sleep she won’t sleep and the book says that you should sleep when baby sleeps, but I’ve got stuff to do and I’m just so tired…blah blah blah”
4. A little bit bonkers. Well, everyone had an inner crazy right!?
5. Lovely. Someone who I genuinely can’t say a bad word about. That I always refer to as ‘such a nice person’, or ‘not a bad bone in their body’.
I think 5 characteristics is plenty.
I actually have a confession to make.
This blog is my second attempt. My first, when thinking about a MBFF became a bit shallow, superficial and stereotypical, which is not me or an honest reflection of who I want to be.
Having gone from 5 characteristics that would have suited a celebrity mummy (I ain’t going to be hanging with Beyoncé anytime soon), I can see that while my new list is much more realistic…
…It can also be applied to anyone. I had initially thought that an MBFF would be different to a BFF but I was wrong. Friends are friends, kids or no kids. They’ll be there for you when you need them, they’ll listen when no one else will and they’ll love you regardless.
Here’s to friends.
The old and the new.